All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence. – Martin Luther King Jr., a leader in the American civil rights movement who established himself as one of the greatest orators in U.S. history with his “I Have A Dream” speech.
The other day after completing an emotional 4 day coaching session, I found myself in the airport a bit dazed and confused so I decided to accept the offer to upgrade my seat to a more comfortable business class. The $49 dollar charge seemed a small price to pay for a solid 3 hour nap with my Ipod tuned to some light classical lullabies; only to arrive at the gate and find my flight delayed due to weather problems. I quickly hustled to customer service to secure a seat on an earlier delayed flight scheduled to leave at my original time, but with no promise that I could keep my upgraded seat. By some turn of fate, I ended up on the plane in business class destined for home. As I boarded, my seat mate greeted me with an extra big smile and began to tell me about his own ordeal that had him bouncing around the country with a 9 hour delay. What was most remarkable about this elderly gentleman was that he told the tale with a constant chuckle and an obviously pleasing personality…but there was even more…
I grew more curious as I spoke to this man whose name was Ananda W.P. Guruge. Inherent in the surname is ‘guru’ or teacher and something told me to dig deeper. Although we were both exhausted there seemed new life bread into each of us as we discussed his background. Of Sri Lankan descent, Ananda, had served as the Sri Lankan ambassador to the United States and was currently enjoying a position as a professor of Eastern Religion. My knowledge of an ambassador’s duties were limited so I asked him to explain his functions, which lead to a discussion of how he had once headed a group of 180 different interest groups that needed to come to a common conclusion. Not only was the number large but the cultures involved were also many. How do you get people like that to even begin to agree? Ananda explained how he would recognize that each and every group had an opinion that needed to be expressed yet that ultimately he would appeal to the fact that in spite of their differences they were ALL still human. Injecting his infectious humor, he would poke fun at himself to help them see that he too was human and not someone to be revered, appealing to the commonality of humanity. This humble approach would have them all at ease, which increased the opportunities to find common ground and reach compromises.
So why can’t we all be ambassadors like this? What is so hard about seeing ourselves in this humanistic light? Why are we so quick to look for the differences? When you sit down across the table from a prospect or new acquaintance do you look for the differences first or do you open your ears, ask good questions and find that place where you agree? Don’t you see that if we first build a foundation upon agreements and similarities then we feel much better about compromising? Like Ananda, don’t take yourself so seriously. Learn to laugh more at yourself to reveal that you are truly human; it just makes other people feel more comfortable and relaxed so that they begin to reveal what’s fascinating about them! Had I chosen to roll into that airplane seat, turn to the window and turn away from this man from another place and culture, I might have just missed the greatest 3 hour, $49 dollar education I have had in a long time! At the end of our conversation, we realized that although on the outside we were quite different, we were no different at all at the core. We were simply two human beings that had dedicated their lives to learning and passing it on! So take this lesson and go become your own ambassador to humanity!
P.S. Ananda, this post could never do justice to the deep journey we took together. For that time I am grateful!